Inner circle

There are people in our lives who inspire us, challenge us, and help us grow. The kinds of people we associate with have great influence in our lives. Many a times the reason we do not grow or reach our highest potential is because we never get away from the wrong people. It’s very important that we connect with people who understand and appreciate our dreams. Life is too short to drag along the wrong people and try to convince them to get on board.

We got to be very careful as to who we let be in our inner circle i.e., people close to us.

I definitely do not want people who would question my dream and my capabilities, People who cannot appreciate me the way I am in my inner circle. I need people who will come into agreement with me and help me grow and not the people who would doubt my capabilities. I need people who would understand my destiny and be bold enough to agree with me in my belief. Over the years  I have had people who walked away from my life and losing them have been a blessing for me. They were good people but I have come to realize that they were not the kind of people I would want in my inner circle. With some people onboard it becomes very difficult for us to move forward, so earlier we let go of them the better we become. I had to understand that my destiny was never tied to people who walked away; these were the people who were with me but were never for me. I would rather be alone for a season than have people constantly dragging me down in my inner circle.

Are the people in your inner circle making you stronger, helping you grow, and making you a better person? 

Life is too short, your time is too valuable, and your destiny is too great to spend your life with people constantly pulling you down. Connect with people that understand and appreciate your uniqueness. If you get the wrong people out of your life, the right people will walk into your life. Not everyone will be willing or capable of going where you are going. Your true friends will not question who you are, won’t be jealous of your gifts, won’t talk you out of your dreams, and will be happy when you succeed and believe in what you are capable.

It’s not about the quantity of friends that are important but the quality of friends that matter. I would rather have few friends who are 100 percent for me than have many friends who are 50 percent for me.

Let go off the people who want to walk away from your life, you may not understand and it may break your heart but someday you will be grateful to them for walking away. Their walking away does not mean there is anything wrong with you but it’s because they cannot go where you are going and your destiny is way too great to be dragging them along. It does not mean that they are bad people it’s just that you are entering into a new season where they would not fit in. Say farewell and get excited for the new season you are entering into.

Not every Battle in life is worth fighting

I haven’t learned this the easy way but somehow I have come to understand one very important key to enjoy life and that is recognizing the battles that are not worth fighting. 

It’s very important that we learn not to make mountains out of molehills because when we do so we will be wasting so much of our time, energy and emotion to an issue or a situation which do not deserve that much of attention. 

We got to learn to ignore the battles that are not worth fighting so that we can fight those battles that are really worth fighting. Knowing what really matters in life and focusing on those things are really very important. We have limited time on earth and the battles are way too many. If we keep fighting each and every battle that comes our way, we may miss out or may not be able to fight the important battles of our life. Avoid the temptation to fight certain battles and you will see how much strength you would have stored up for the battles that are worth fighting. We got to be willing to make some changes if we want to live in peace and be happy. Being in peace is the position of power. Don’t always be upset or aggravated about one thing or the other.  Being upset is a position of weakness because while in that position we may be making poor choices that we may regret latter.  Learning to rule over our emotion is very essential to be peaceful. Investing our time changing our self instead of trying to change the circumstances around us is very important.

It is not worth wasting our precious time trying to get even with someone who wronged us. If someone has wronged us, the best favor we can do for our self is to forgive them because if we do not do so we will be fighting battle worth nothing. Don’t get stressed out if things don’t always go your way because there are things we cannot change no matter how hard we try so don’t make the mistake of getting upset about every little thing. Let us not expect everyone around us to be just like us because our differences are what make each one of us unique and that’s the beauty of life.  It’s no use trying to change things and people that are not meant to change; it’s not a battle worth fighting.

Let us  remind ourself that not every battle in life is worth fighting.

With Love,

Deborah