Perfect fit at the right season

 On this journey of life I have learned many great lessons and one lesson I am really grateful for in particular is learning to let go. I have learned that every time I am stepping into a new season I have to let go of certain things and some people from my life. I am grateful for each and every person and situation that crossed my way but I am also grateful that they left at the right time making space for the new ones. There was a time when it used to bother me every time I had to let go of people who I really loved but now I have come to understand that it's not a bad thing after all. I am especially grateful for those who walked with me some distance and then made an exit at the RIGHT time. 

Recently I was rearranging my clothes from my wardrobe. I had so many clothes many of which I don't wear anymore because they don't fit my current style. My wardrobe was pretty messy and it didn't look good at all. So I finally decided to rearrange and I found so many clothes that I wouldn't wear anymore. There was time when those clothes were perfect for me but I have grown and my taste in clothes have changed with time. I was however keeping them lying there in the wardrobe hoping that I might wear them someday. I didn't even realize that I had no space for the clothes that fit my current taste because the space was all occupied by clothes that doesn't fit my taste any more.  So I had to dispose of more than 60% of my wardrobe  and now it is much easier for me to find a comfortable wear.  

Like me most of us have this tendency of keeping things and people even when their part in our life is over. It's very important to clear up the mess in our life every now and then, be it people or stuffs. The people who walked with you yesterday may not be able to walk with you today and if you do not let go then just like my wardrobe someday suddenly you will realize that all the people you have been trying to drag along are nothing but mess. They are going to occupy all the space that there will be no space for those who fit in your life in this new season. 

Just like I can't be mad at clothes that doesn't fit me anymore, I can't be mad at people who doesn't fit into my life in this new season. I have to understand that there was a time when they did fit in perfectly and be grateful to them for that but in this new season it's wise to let go.  I have had many people (people I really loved) who left me and some I had to leave. To be honest it was never easy, it did hurt but when I look back today I am grateful that some left on their own and some I had the strength to leave. Today I have no complaints against those who left me and also no regrets that I was the one to leave some. I am grateful for each and every person who came into my life, taught me some important lessons and then left at the right time.  

Steve Jobs was so right in saying, "You can't connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards."

Just because people leave doesn't mean they are bad people, it just means their part in your story is over and so you got to move on to the next part without them.  If someone was meant for you they would have been with you and if they are not then you got to understand they are not meant for you in this new season.   Let go and wait for the next best thing that is about happen in your life.

 Live beautiful!!!!!

Beauty of brokenness

"Our life is full of brokenness - broken relationships, broken promises, broken expectations. How can we live with that brokenness without becoming bitter and resentful except by returning again and again to God's faithful presence in our lives. " ~ Henry Nouwen

 I am sure each one of us have been through that phase of life when we were completely broken. I have been through it several times and I keep going through that process, as weird as it may sound, there is a part of me that gets excited every time I am broken. I have a love-hate kind of relationship with brokenness. I am not denying the fact that it is indeed a very painful process but I feel so close to God in my brokenness. At times I ask God to keep me broken if that's the only way I am going to be close to Him because I can not express the joy I feel in His presence.

I no longer think there is anything wrong with feeling hurt, crying, doubting, worrying and making mistakes. I wouldn't try and resist brokenness because it keeps me humble and helps me grow.  I am not trying to fix myself anymore. I have learned to accept and love myself irrespective of my brokenness, mistakes and the imperfections.

If you have never hit the rock bottom in your life you will never understand what I am talking about but if you are able to relate to me, I would like to acknowledge you for being so brave and for never giving up on life.

Only when everything falls apart you get to witness your true strength.  Every brokenness in my life has brought out the best in me and revealed to me things I never knew about myself. I never came out on the other side of my brokenness as the same old me but I always met with a better version of myself.
 I never want to stop growing and being a better version of myself so I am constantly preparing myself for the trials I may face. I don't want to be unprepared and give in when I face the difficult situations but I want to be brave enough and stand strong. 

Learn to accept and appreciate the brokenness in life and trust me you will be able to witness the true beauty of brokenness.

Yes I am broken and my brokenness is my blessing and my badge of honor!

Live beautiful and stay broken. 

I didn't know any better

One of Maya Angelou's greatest lessons to Oprah was "when You know better, You do better" and this has been one of the best lessons for me as well.

I have made many mistakes along the way be it  a small or a big one but I have come to understand that all I did yesterday was because that was the best I knew.

I have learnt not to be a prisoner to my mistakes and the guilt that comes along.  

I look back and laugh at myself for the choices I  made along the way but I have no regrets because I did what I knew best at that point of time. I am grateful for today because I realize how far I have come and how much I have grown. As I laugh at the choices I have made in the past, I realize that the future me is going to do the same at the present me. That's how I am going to know that I have grown. In the process of growing up I am not going to keep myself from experiencing life. I am going to live my life to the fullest and I know I will make many mistakes along the way but I am gonna keep doing what I know best to do at a point of time. 

I know if I write this post tomorrow it will be much better than what I am writing today because I will know better tomorrow than what i know today but I am not going to wait till tomorrow . I know I will see lot of mistakes in my post when i read it tomorrow but I am not going to try and edit it but I am just gonna let it be and laugh at it and tell my self I didn't know any better. 

Wow! it's such a relief knowing that it doesn't have to be perfect. All I got to say is "I didn't know any better." Ha ha ha ha

I am just gonna live my life today not worrying if I am going to regret about it tomorrow. If tomorrow I don't like the way I lived my life or the way I wrote this post today, I am just gonna say "Ï didn't know and better" and then move on. 

Live beautiful!!!!

I am a Work in progress

I have been learning about who I was, who I am and who I am becoming and it has occurred to me that it is not about just one part but many cycles of my life. I have come to understand that no matter who I was yesterday, life keeps taking me through an evolution that changes the definition of who I am.  I see a piece of me in all women and it feels like I have lived many lives. I have come to a point in my life where I realize that I needed every wrong decision, every wrong choice, every tear, every heartbreak and every challenge to become who I am today.  I have learned to break out of the paradigm of who I thought I was so that I don’t place limit on who I am becoming. I know I will get it wrong many a times, I will make mistakes along the way and I will be disappointed but that’s all OK because my greatest lessons in life have birth forth from the moments when I got it all wrong. I have learned that I need not pretend and put a mask to cover up my mistakes because when I am comfortable with my imperfections, I don’t judge and use someone else's mistakes as an opportunity to feel superior or better.  I have reached to a point in my life from where I can look back at all that I have gone through and see beauty in all of that.  I am constantly evolving and constantly changing.  I am not afraid of what’s on the other side of the change. I would never restrict myself to one definition of who I am because I am a work in progress.

I don’t have all the answers and I haven’t figured it all out yet. I will never have all the answers but that’s perfectly OK with me.  I admit that I am a work in progress and I am proud of that because the work is excellent. I don’t need to figure it all out, I am just going to enjoy the process and not worry about the finish product because I am pretty confident the finish product will be beautiful.

keep growing and stay beautiful!

The Best is yet to come

Wow! We are stepping into a new year 2016 and I have so much to be grateful for 2015. 

As we bid farewell to  2015 I am grateful for the beautiful year that has gone by.  It has been a very blessed year and it has taught me very good lessons. I have learned that life is beautiful irrespective of what does or doesn’t happen. I have been blessed with a beautiful life and that is what I am most grateful for. I have had difficult times no doubt but at the end of the day I have had many reasons to be thankful for. Yes I did go through situations where I was tempted to give up being grateful and I did run into people who tempted me to do the same. But I realized that those circumstances and the people were not permanent in my life. So I learned not to let something that is temporary in my life ruin the beauty of my life. One of the most important lessons I learned this past year was that there is nothing such as bad circumstances or bad people; they are just there to test us and help us grow. I have come to a point in my life where I have learned to be grateful for all the difficult circumstances and difficult people in my life because these circumstances and the people are what help us get to a higher level in life.

 I have learned that challenges are what help us grow in life so I am always ready for the challenges.

I know 2016 is going to be another blessed year , I am very confident that many blessings are heading my way with my name written all over and some of these blessings may come disguised as challenges so I am going to prepare myself and be geared up  to receive every blessing that is coming my way be it in any form. I believe that the blessings that i have received in the past would be nothing compared to the blessings that are heading my way. The Best is yet to come and I am very excited. Are you believing the same? If yes, then get excited!

Blessed New Year beautiful people and I hope you are all prepared to welcome the New Year and all the blessings it is bringing along with it.

Be grateful, Stay beautiful, and stay blessed. 

With love,

Deborah

Inner Voice

Have you ever taken some time to listen to yourself?

There are many voices that you will keep hearing. With today’s technology and everything around us it is indeed very difficult to listen to that voice inside of us. In today’s’ world,  we have this obsession of being occupied every second. If it’s not the work it’s the television, the social media, the friends, the family, the food, the drink, the worry etc. We have somehow by default learned to keep our selves occupied with something or the other because we have been told that ‘an empty mind is the devil’s workshop’. Yes that may be true (I have no say on this) if it’s kept empty for a very long time, it may become devil’s workshop but if we do not take time to empty our mind and shut everything around us for a little while every now and then, and listen to our inner voice we might not be living to our full potential.

I do not know about you but there is nothing that scares me more than not living my life to my full potential. For someone like me it’s not very difficult to shut up everything around me for sometime every once in a while because I find great pleasure in doing that. Every time I do that I discover something new about myself and I realize that I am capable of more than I ever realized. Maybe it won’t be easy for many but it will totally be worth.

You do not need to agree with me but if there is a small part of you asking you to listen to your inner voice, once in a while try that out. You can thank me later. 

Love,

Deborah

It's not about the destination but the journey!!

I always try and get excited as i get out of my bed every morning.

 Though every day is not always the same , but I keep reminding myself how blessed I am to be still breathing. That is what gets me excited because I believe that if I am still breathing, it's a sign that I am not done yet. I love my life and I am very excited about what lies ahead. Though I am not living my dream life and no everything isn't  great in my life but I do believe in the beauty of life. Irrespective of what happens or doesn't happen I have promised myself that I am never going to give up on believing in the beauty of life and the possibilities that life can offer.

I haven't achieved the goals that i have set for myself , I am not even half way there but i take everyday as an opportunity to prepare myself for the goals i have set for myself. I don't know how long it is going to take to achieve the goals that i have set for my life but I am no way in hurry. I am completely loving the journey and I am least bothered about the destination for now.

I don't have enough money in my account, there are people in my life who do not understand the way I live my life so I get criticized, I am happily single but some people take that as a perfect reason to blame me for being me and I am kind of workaholic which drains me out completely most of the time.

BUT I AM HAPPY and that is what matters at the end of the day. So what if I don't have enough of any of those things, what matters the most is that I am happy.

Though everything is not perfect but I am grateful for the beautiful life I have been blessed with. Yes I do want to do great in life but I am not going to wait till I achieve all my goals to live the life I want to live. I am going to enjoy my life in my own way and be grateful for many blessings I have been blessed with.

It is not about the destination but the journey itself. If you are not happy with your journey, it's most unlikely that you will be happy with your destination.

So enjoy your journey and keep moving towards your destination but don't keep waiting to reach the destination.

Live beautiful!!!

Love,

Deborah.

Getting comfortable being Uncomfortable

Comfort is a very pleasant thing and we all love being comfortable but comfort doesn’t help us grow. It’s very important to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Being comfortable is not a bad thing but it does hinder our growth. I am pretty sure none of us want to get stuck in life, we all want to grow irrespective of how successful or unsuccessful we are. We all want to be our best and do great in life and for that we got to push ourselves out of our comfort zones. Some of us need a little push but for most of us the push has to be a really hard one. Sometimes on purpose we got to put ourselves in situations which kicks us out of our comfort zone.

Our worst enemy that keeps us within our comfort zone and doesn’t let us grow is our fear.  If we listen to our fear it will tell us things like:

  

                                                                      What if I don’t succeed?                                                                                                                                            What if people laugh at me?                                                                      What if I am not good enough?                                                                                          What if I am not capable enough?

Our fear can fill us with all these stupid “what ifs”.

If our fear is  keeping us from achieving whatever we want to achieve then it's high time we deal with it. Your fear will only obey you so you got to command it to keep quite. Do not let your fear stop you from stepping out of your comfort zone. If we are not uncomfortable that may mean we are not growing so I have learned that being uncomfortable is not that bad after all.

I have personally experienced that every time I got uncomfortable with my life, I always came out better than I was, when that season got over. All the irritations, uncomfortable zones and all my brokenness brought me to a better place than I had ever been. Yes I don’t like being uncomfortable but every time I get uncomfortable and life seems to be weighing me down, I have learned to stay strong knowing that there is something good heading my way. Every single challenge in my life helped me be a better version of myself.

Life is full of challenges and we all know this very well. The only thing we don’t accept is that these challenges will demand us to be uncomfortable. We can choose not to be uncomfortable and just give in or give up because that is the easiest thing to do, or we can choose to accept the challenges and stay uncomfortable which is not easy and will demand a lot of courage.  Well the choice is ours but so are the consequences.

The rule is simple: If we want to grow and make progress in life we got to learn to be uncomfortable or else we can stay comfortable and live in mediocrity. Life happens outside our comfort zone. When we move out of our comfort zone we got to remember that unexpected things are heading our way and so we got to be prepared for all that life throws at us.

I am blessed with a beautiful life but at times I do get uncomfortable with my life, I face real challenges and I struggle to get by. There are times I just feel like giving up but I keep reminding myself that I am heading towards something great and take every uncomfortable situation as a challenge that is going to help me get ahead and grow. I do not want to settle in mediocrity so I am preparing myself for the challenges every moment. There is so much more to life only if we move out of our comfort zone and face challenges instead of running from them.

We experience the real fun of life when we learn to take risks because without risks there isn't much to life. Once we learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable and start taking risk we would crave for the challenges because then we know the importance of challenges for growth and progress.

I have heard that the best things come to those who wait for it but as per my understanding of life the best things come to those who do not run away from the challenges of life but face them irrespective of the difficulties it bring along.

Stay beautiful and keep growing!!!!!

Love Deborah.

Yes I am an introvert and there is nothing wrong with me!

We live in a world of extroverts so if we are not careful the world may make us feel like there is something wrong about being an introvert. I choose to strongly disagree with that. I choose not to agree with the world that do not appreciate the beauty of diversity. 

I have always been an introvert myself but that doesn’t mean I don’t like talking to people or I am too shy. I do talk to people but I am not a small talk person. I like meaningful talks, talks that will enrich me and help me grow. I am not a shy person either and I don’t think introvert people are shy. If being social means talking to people no matter what the talks are about then I definitely would not fit there. I would rather be on my own learning something new, thinking or writing than being in a huge group talking and doing whatever the extroverts do. Yes I know people who love to be in places where there are many people around and I think that's a very good quality as well but there are some of us who love solitude more.

I do appreciate and admire the extroverts. Yes I do believe social skills are important but I also strongly believe that everyone has the freedom to be who they are without having to feel guilty. 

I am in a profession where I get to see many different kinds of pupils (my students) and I seriously love the diversity I get to witness. There are students in my class who always have something or the other to say in every topic and also there are students who have nothing to say in any of the topic. There are some whom I have to push a bit to speak up but there are some who would never speak no matter how hard I push them. I have learned that just because someone does not speak up in the class does not mean that he/she does not have any idea about the things being discussed. The most introvert pupil in my class are sometimes the ones who write the best answers.

Just because someone is an introvert does not mean that person would not be able to do great in life but instead introverts tend to do great in their solitude and some great ideas that has been passed down to us are from some great introverts. Some of the introverts who we appreciate for their contribution towards the society are Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, Mahatma Gandhi, Rosa Parks, Bill Gates, Emma Watson and many more. Some of these great people have been known to be introverts and some have themselves declared to be introverts. 

Don’t ever underestimate an introvert person for their quite nature because they maybe be timid and quite but at the same time if need be they can be courageous and do what they got to do.

Whether you are an extrovert or an introvert you are equally capable of doing great things in life. The only thing we got be mindful of is to not judge someone just because that someone is not just like us. We are not meant to be all same , if we were all same that would be a really boring world to live in. Let's celebrate the diversity, celebrate us and celebrate others.

Just because someone is a quite person doesn't mean there is something wrong with that person. It's just a part of one's nature.

  If you are happy with your life hats-off to you but if you don't like it then you got to change certain things in your life. Do it now but don't waste your time worrying about the other person who is not just like you!!!

Celebrate life and the diversity. Live Beautiful!!!

Love,

Deborah.   

Happy Valentine's Day all you blessed singles!!!!!

I would like to thank my friend for sending me this picture.

Well Valentine’s Day is here and I can feel that love is in the air ( ha ha ha ). It’s a wonderful occasion to celebrate for the couples no doubt but this post is for all those single people who feel like they have no right to celebrate this day.

I really love this day because it gives us an opportunity to take time to celebrate love the most beautiful thing known to us (mankind).  When we are in a relationship we are compelled (or also because we love to) to celebrate the day with just that one person. The good thing about celebrating the day as a single is that we get to celebrate love in different ways and with anyone we wish to. We are not under any compulsion to dedicate this day to just one person but to everyone we love.

Are you celebrating ????? Well, as for me I am definitely celebrating love this valentine and want make sure that I learn to appreciate love in every form.
If there is anyone whose heart has been broken, please don't be disheartened and please never give up on love. Just because you got your heart broken does not mean that love is to be blamed or that there is something wrong with you. Instead be grateful and celebrate that you have been saved from the love that was not true, I don’t mean to say that the person who broke your heart is to be blamed either, because you may not understand it now but someday you will be grateful to that person  (trust me on this, I bet you). You have been blessed with another chance to find your true love and please make sure that you do not settle for anything less than what you deserve this time. True love will never break your heart and I am sure your true love will find its way to you, but till then you have every right to celebrate love like anyone else.

I would like to dedicate this valentine to all my friends and family who have always loved me through the thick and the thin.

I want to take every opportunity possible to celebrate this day with all the beautiful people in my life. If you are reading this post , you are one of those people that I am grateful for so I am dedicating this valentine to you as well.

Happy Valentine’s Day!!!

 I would also like to take this opportunity to thank you for being a part of my life and for loving me. I love you!!!!!

Let us always celebrate the beauty of love.

P.S. #And all you single people, your ‘THE ONE’ will enter your life at the right time so don’t hurry. Wherever he/she is right now is being prepared for you so I hope you won’t make him/her enter your life before the right time because then your ‘THE ONE’ may not be fully prepared to be with you forever.


with lots of love,
Deborah