Happy Valentine's Day all you blessed singles!!!!!

I would like to thank my friend for sending me this picture.

Well Valentine’s Day is here and I can feel that love is in the air ( ha ha ha ). It’s a wonderful occasion to celebrate for the couples no doubt but this post is for all those single people who feel like they have no right to celebrate this day.

I really love this day because it gives us an opportunity to take time to celebrate love the most beautiful thing known to us (mankind).  When we are in a relationship we are compelled (or also because we love to) to celebrate the day with just that one person. The good thing about celebrating the day as a single is that we get to celebrate love in different ways and with anyone we wish to. We are not under any compulsion to dedicate this day to just one person but to everyone we love.

Are you celebrating ????? Well, as for me I am definitely celebrating love this valentine and want make sure that I learn to appreciate love in every form.
If there is anyone whose heart has been broken, please don't be disheartened and please never give up on love. Just because you got your heart broken does not mean that love is to be blamed or that there is something wrong with you. Instead be grateful and celebrate that you have been saved from the love that was not true, I don’t mean to say that the person who broke your heart is to be blamed either, because you may not understand it now but someday you will be grateful to that person  (trust me on this, I bet you). You have been blessed with another chance to find your true love and please make sure that you do not settle for anything less than what you deserve this time. True love will never break your heart and I am sure your true love will find its way to you, but till then you have every right to celebrate love like anyone else.

I would like to dedicate this valentine to all my friends and family who have always loved me through the thick and the thin.

I want to take every opportunity possible to celebrate this day with all the beautiful people in my life. If you are reading this post , you are one of those people that I am grateful for so I am dedicating this valentine to you as well.

Happy Valentine’s Day!!!

 I would also like to take this opportunity to thank you for being a part of my life and for loving me. I love you!!!!!

Let us always celebrate the beauty of love.

P.S. #And all you single people, your ‘THE ONE’ will enter your life at the right time so don’t hurry. Wherever he/she is right now is being prepared for you so I hope you won’t make him/her enter your life before the right time because then your ‘THE ONE’ may not be fully prepared to be with you forever.


with lots of love,
Deborah 

Happy New Year all you Beautiful People

For all the beautiful dreamers

Are you a dreamer?

 If you are then welcome aboard. I am a big time dreamer. The journey of life is a very crazy adventure and I love every bit of it.

 If you think dreamers are stupid people then please do not read this post because I assure you that you will simply be wasting your time. This post is explicitly for dreamers like me.

 To me life is like an empty jar, what you want to fill the jar with is up to you. You are an artist in your own way and so you are going to create your own masterpiece to fill in the jar. Do u believe in fairy tales and dream come true??? Well! I do  ( I know some find that stupid but hey that’s me and i can’t help) and I love the fact that I am a dreamer and a believer. I believe that all the forces work for my best interest ultimately.

If you are still reading this post then I am sure that you are a dreamer like me. Through this post I would like to encourage you to never stop dreaming and believing. There will be circumstances and the people that will discourage you at times but don’t let any of those change you and what you believe in. Don’t be ashamed or afraid of who you are. You are writing the story of your life every moment. Each one of us have our own story and our stories are what makes us unique. Don’t hesitate to share your story because that’s what makes us human and connects us to one another. You never know your story might make a difference in someone’s life. Share your story and you will find people who will be interested in your story making you realize that you are not alone in this huge universe. 

Believe in yourself and be confident of who you are. Never be afraid to dream and aim high in life. Like the finger prints, the stars in the Milky Way or the snow flakes, each one of us are unique and one of a kind. We all have something special in us that sets us apart from the others. Its not about being a super model or an Olympic gold medalist but your specialty and uniqueness can be reflected from things that we tend to ignore but are very significant like patience, a good listener, someone who can make others laugh. We try so very hard to be accepted by the society and the people around us but in life it’s not always about being accepted by everyone, it’s more about being accepted by our inner self.

In life there are going to be lots of ups, downs, and some bumps along the way but keep reminding yourself that there are people who can relate to you, understand you and will help you. If you are a dreamer or a believer don’t ever give up but keep reminding yourself that your pay day is coming. Keep growing even if you don’t seem to see the result immediately. Never stop exercising your mind with positive thoughts because as it is said a strong mind can do just about anything.

I hope you know that you are the author of your story and that you have every right to live the kind of life you want to live. As we enter into this New Year 2015 if you think you are not living the kind of life you want to live, remember that life is too short to live the way you don’t like. Make some changes today for better. We are all perfectly imperfect .

Kiss 2014 goodbye and welcome 2015 with a warm hug and sweet kisses. Have a blessed 2015. The best is yet to come. 

Happy New year!!!!!!!!

with love,

Deborah <3 

Inner circle

There are people in our lives who inspire us, challenge us, and help us grow. The kinds of people we associate with have great influence in our lives. Many a times the reason we do not grow or reach our highest potential is because we never get away from the wrong people. It’s very important that we connect with people who understand and appreciate our dreams. Life is too short to drag along the wrong people and try to convince them to get on board.

We got to be very careful as to who we let be in our inner circle i.e., people close to us.

I definitely do not want people who would question my dream and my capabilities, People who cannot appreciate me the way I am in my inner circle. I need people who will come into agreement with me and help me grow and not the people who would doubt my capabilities. I need people who would understand my destiny and be bold enough to agree with me in my belief. Over the years  I have had people who walked away from my life and losing them have been a blessing for me. They were good people but I have come to realize that they were not the kind of people I would want in my inner circle. With some people onboard it becomes very difficult for us to move forward, so earlier we let go of them the better we become. I had to understand that my destiny was never tied to people who walked away; these were the people who were with me but were never for me. I would rather be alone for a season than have people constantly dragging me down in my inner circle.

Are the people in your inner circle making you stronger, helping you grow, and making you a better person? 

Life is too short, your time is too valuable, and your destiny is too great to spend your life with people constantly pulling you down. Connect with people that understand and appreciate your uniqueness. If you get the wrong people out of your life, the right people will walk into your life. Not everyone will be willing or capable of going where you are going. Your true friends will not question who you are, won’t be jealous of your gifts, won’t talk you out of your dreams, and will be happy when you succeed and believe in what you are capable.

It’s not about the quantity of friends that are important but the quality of friends that matter. I would rather have few friends who are 100 percent for me than have many friends who are 50 percent for me.

Let go off the people who want to walk away from your life, you may not understand and it may break your heart but someday you will be grateful to them for walking away. Their walking away does not mean there is anything wrong with you but it’s because they cannot go where you are going and your destiny is way too great to be dragging them along. It does not mean that they are bad people it’s just that you are entering into a new season where they would not fit in. Say farewell and get excited for the new season you are entering into.

Blessings!!!

What comes to your mind when u think of the term 'Blessing' ? 

How have you been blessed? 

Do you take time to count your blessings?

Do you think your blessings are worth counting?

Well! To me, my blessings are each moment of my life. I believe in blessings and also in blessings in disguise. I have been blessed in many ways and many a times my blessings were  disguised as challenges. I haven't always lived a very comfortable life (and i am pretty sure most of us haven't) but those moments of my life that made me most uncomfortable are the moments I look back with gratefulness. Had it not been for the difficulties in my life, I would have never been where i am today. I definitely do not have a perfect life today but I sure am blessed. I have no desire to live a so called 'perfect life' because the imperfections are what makes me keep going. The challenges/difficulties/imperfections of life are what makes me wanna live a better life each day. 

I am always thinking about my blessings in life and at times it makes me wonder how did i deserve to be blessed so much. 

When I say I am blessed, I do not mean I have no reason to complain or that life does not frustrate me but when such things happen I do bounce back and see the brighter picture of life. I do face the challenges and tests of life every now and then (who does not?), when I face those I remind myself of all the blessings in my life and that is what helps me get back on track. 

These days we have to be careful because we have become very sensitive and we easily get offended but if only we take time to remind ourselves of all the blessings in life, we might not have to be so very sensitive. Being aware of our blessings give us the confidence and we tend to be least bothered about what others think or say about us. 

Everyone is blessed but it depends on how every individual look at it. Many a times the blessings are  disguised so I hope we do not fool ourselves and start complaining straight away. We never know those challenges we face may turn out to be the best thing that could have ever happened to us.   

Be blessed always!

Blessing,

Deborah. 

Not every Battle in life is worth fighting

I haven’t learned this the easy way but somehow I have come to understand one very important key to enjoy life and that is recognizing the battles that are not worth fighting. 

It’s very important that we learn not to make mountains out of molehills because when we do so we will be wasting so much of our time, energy and emotion to an issue or a situation which do not deserve that much of attention. 

We got to learn to ignore the battles that are not worth fighting so that we can fight those battles that are really worth fighting. Knowing what really matters in life and focusing on those things are really very important. We have limited time on earth and the battles are way too many. If we keep fighting each and every battle that comes our way, we may miss out or may not be able to fight the important battles of our life. Avoid the temptation to fight certain battles and you will see how much strength you would have stored up for the battles that are worth fighting. We got to be willing to make some changes if we want to live in peace and be happy. Being in peace is the position of power. Don’t always be upset or aggravated about one thing or the other.  Being upset is a position of weakness because while in that position we may be making poor choices that we may regret latter.  Learning to rule over our emotion is very essential to be peaceful. Investing our time changing our self instead of trying to change the circumstances around us is very important.

It is not worth wasting our precious time trying to get even with someone who wronged us. If someone has wronged us, the best favor we can do for our self is to forgive them because if we do not do so we will be fighting battle worth nothing. Don’t get stressed out if things don’t always go your way because there are things we cannot change no matter how hard we try so don’t make the mistake of getting upset about every little thing. Let us not expect everyone around us to be just like us because our differences are what make each one of us unique and that’s the beauty of life.  It’s no use trying to change things and people that are not meant to change; it’s not a battle worth fighting.

Let us  remind ourself that not every battle in life is worth fighting.

With Love,

Deborah 

Love Vs. Heartbreak

I am not an expert on the subject but I would like to share some of my thoughts on love and heartbreaks. These are all my personal thoughts so it’s fine if you do not agree because each one of us have our own opinion. 

The reason I am writing this is because it breaks my heart when I hear people blaming love for their broken hearts. I believe that true love will never break your heart and if your heart has been broken then that love was never true.

Love is a beautiful thing and there is nothing more beautiful than love. It’s the best gift anyone can receive or give. The people who have the ability to give true love and the ones who receive such love are the most blessed ones. 

There are many kinds of love, be it in any form, love is always beautiful. Its love when a mother holds her new born, its love when a dad carries his little one on his shoulder,  its love when siblings stand for each other, its love when friends encourage one another through the difficult times, its love when a wife waits with the  meal on the table for her husband, its love when parents ignore their needs for the sake of their children’s need,  likewise love has different forms and be it in any form love is always beautiful . 

 We however tend to take love in some form for granted because some of these love tend to reach us way too easily, especially our parents’ love.  In today’s generation we give up on love way too easily and that is because we are blindfolded with the wrong concepts of love.  If we truly understand what love really is, we would never give up because love in itself is very attractive and beautiful that we would never want to give up on. 

We confuse love with many other things such as fear, lust, desire, attraction, etc and that is what is causing all the chaos like broken families, heartbreaks etc in our societies today. If we truly understand what love really is and if we avoid the confusion on love, our societies would be much better place to live in because so many problems would be solved if only we could understand the real concept of love. 

True love is not about romance, candle light dinner, and walk along the beach. It’s about respect, compromise, care and trust. Though love is about compromising for the ones we love but there is a huge difference between us willing to compromise and someone making us compromise. We got be wise enough to understand the difference. You don’t have to put up an outstanding performance to be loved.

The sad truth these days is that broken hearts are very common. However, heartbreaks do not disqualify us from being able to love but instead makes us stronger and helps us understand true love better.  

Well! who doesn't get their heart broken? But that doesn't mean we have to stop loving. I like many others have had my share of heartbreak and there was a time I used to wonder why, but as the time passed by I realized that it was the best thing that ever happened to me. The heartbreaks I went through made me understand love more clearly and helped me be a stronger person than I was.

 The beauty of love is that it accepts you with all your imperfections and you never have to try and be who you are not just to be loved. If you have ever gotten your heart broken just because you couldn't live up to someone’s expectations then that person did you a great favor by breaking your heart and you will definitely be grateful to them someday if not today. 

I know it sounds weird but it’s healthy to get your heart broken at times because every heart break brings you closer to yourself and makes you analyze yourself. But of course you should be willing to do the analysis. The more time you spend analyzing and understanding yourself the more you will be able to see what you are worth. Once you understand your true worth, no one will ever be able to break your heart.

So love and heart break has no correlation because these are two different concepts. Love everyone and if ever your heart tends to be breaking don’t take it way too seriously because someday that won’t matter a bit. So why ruin your today for something that is not going to matter in the long run.  Never stop loving no matter how your experiences have been but make every experience an opportunity to learn and never blame love for your heartbreak.

I Love You  <3

With love,

Deborah J

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what would i advice the 16 year old me?

It seems like it was just yesterday that I was 16. It’s really amazing how time passes by so swift.

I don’t have many regrets and the ones I have I try and disregard because those were the best lessons for me. Everything that I didn't do right and everything that once broke my heart helped me be a better person than who I was.  I am a firm believer that we all need to face both the dark and the brighter sides of life and make some mistakes but there are times I wish I had done things little different. So if I were to advice my 16 year old self these are few things that I would tell myself:

• ·         Age of 16 is one of the most beautiful phases of life. It’s a phase when one is no longer a girl neither a woman but is in between. So it’s an age to embrace the beauty of it and focus on being the best of you.
• ·         Listen to your heart. At this stage there seems to be so many confusions because there are many voices that says different things of what we are to do. Parents have their say, friends have their, teachers say something else and there are many more. It’s not easy to figure out whom to listen to but the best thing would be to take time to understand who you are and what you want to do with your life.
• ·         Respect yourself. People may look down on you because you are young but don’t let anyone look down on you. People will only respect you if you respect yourself so be respectful to yourself and earn respect.
• ·         Enjoy your friendships. Have enough time for friends and family. Have as much fun as you can with the people who genuinely love and care you.  Be careful not be addicted to anyone in particular that you forget others because the person you are prioritizing may not always stand by you. If that happens it’s not their fault because you have the right to choose and no one can impose that on you.
• ·         Everyone makes mistake so don’t beat up yourself for your mistakes. Learn from your mistakes but don’t let them haunt you down.
• ·         You are beautiful no matter what. Beauty is not just about how you look but it lies within in the unseen realm. As far as beauty is concerned there is no bad hair day, you are always beautiful so be confident and proud of who you are.

Well I wrote these for the 16 year old me but I realized that these principles do apply to me even today. I need to be reminded all these over and over again and that’s what I love about writing. It’s always there anytime we need a reminder. We all have bad days once in a while and we always need something to lighten up such days. For me it’s my work (my writings), every time I read I tell myself be proud of who I am and be grateful for the beautiful life I have been blessed with.  It makes me feel good again no matter what I am going through.

Just like I wrote 16 years old me I know I will have many more to write to the present me in future. The fact is that we don’t see  things the way we are suppose to and when we are suppose to. That does not however mean we are not capable of doing so. We just need to take time to understand ourselves and be the best that we can be and not worry about what others think of us.

We all need something to look back to and remind us who we are. 

Your today is going to be your memories tomorrow so make sure you are making good ones.

Love,

Deborah <3

Perfectly Imperfect

'Perfect'

Think about this word. It sounds good but what is perfect around us? 

 I have learned that perfect is not always real, whereas imperfect is real and beautiful if we have learned to see it the right way. When I look around carefully everything is so perfectly imperfect.  I have learned that nothing is perfect in the world we are living in but still everything is so beautiful. It tells me that, for anything to be beautiful it need not be perfect.

We  humans are always looking for things that we don’t posses irrespective of the fact that we may possess something better than what we are looking for.  Today we are all bound with an illusion to be someone that we are not. We long to be in someone else’s place no matter how good a place we are in. We tend to forget that even the ones we are longing to be like are no where near perfect. We are all very unique and we need to take pride in who we are. It’s always good to appreciate other people but it’s very unhealthy if we start longing to be just like them. If God wanted us to be like the person we are longing to be, He would have created us that way but He didn't and I believe He has a very good reason for that. 

It breaks my heart to see people comparing themselves to the other person they think are better than them and they complain about the differences but if we could ponder for a moment we would realize that the differences are what makes each one of us beautiful in our own way.  If only we could see how beautiful we are with all our imperfections we would never wish to be like anyone but ourselves. We got to understand that we are all different, some are tall while others are short, some are fair while others are dark, some are thin while others are fat, some have straight hair while others have curly hair, some have big eyes, nose etc  while others have small eyes, nose etc. Whichever category we fall in, we are beautiful in our own way and no one not even we ourselves have the right to think or say we are not beautiful. However we are, we are perfectly imperfect.

 It’s just a matter of perspective; all we need are the eyes and heart to see through the beauty within. It’s not just within ourselves that we need to see through but we need to learn to see the beauty in others too. We need to accept and appreciate people with their imperfections because we ourselves are nowhere near perfect but we are still beautiful so are the other people. 

Each one of us are perfectly imperfect just the way we are and so lets learn to accept ourselves and one another with the imperfections . Lets not try and change other people instead utilize that time to make the best of ourselves. 

Be the best you because you are beautiful irrespective of how you feel.  Once again you are perfectly imperfect :) .

With love,

Deborah <3

let go of the past and make a new beginning

Its always good to cherish the past if it helps us but the problem arises when we start behaving ineffectively because we think, “this is the way it has always been, and it will continue to be this way” .  

Our pasts may be useful, or they may hinder our progress and growth.  It all depends on how relevant they are to the present and how we look at it. The one reason why we are all so burdened with life is because we have the tendency to carry our bitter past with us all the time. Any time we hold resentment, we hurt our-self. We may seem to blame a person or situation but the fact is inwardly we are blaming our self up for being a part of that relationship or experience. All the time we keep hearing about letting go of our past and moving forward but we are so reluctant and we fail to do so.

As we live and experience things, we must recognize what belongs and what doesn’t, what works and what doesn’t, and then make the choice to let go off things that are not meant for us. Not out of pride, inability, or arrogance, but simply because not everything is supposed to fit into our life.  At certain point in life we got to close the door on the past, change the music, clean up the mess,  and start over. When we stop being who we once were ,we can become who we are meant to be today.  Letting go has nothing to do with weakness, but everything to do with strength.  We got to let go and move on with our lives not to let others  realize our worth, but because we finally realize our own worth.

Remember that nothing starts easy; everything begins at some level of difficulty. At first everything seems difficult  but one beautiful thing about life is the fact that the most difficult challenges often come out with the most rewarding and satisfying outcome in the long run. The reason we do not wanna let go is because we are fearful of the unknown, wanting to be within our comfort zone always, and not willing to put up with short-term pain for long-term gain. But lets not forget that growth begins at the end of all these. The most successful outcomes we know about never started from a place of comfort and ease. 

Don't be afraid to start over but get excited expecting  something new and better. You never know what's waiting for you on the other side of your fear and doubt.

One very personal tip on letting go: please never hate or keep any kind of grudge against anything or anyone you are letting go because to hate anything or anyone you have to keep them in your heart so you can not let go that way.

It’s time to open the next chapter of your life.

 Every day is an opportunity to begin again. Each moment is an opportunity to begin again.

Don't try and figure out all the 'whys', someday everything you have been through will make perfect sense and everything will fall into place.

with love, 

Deborah :)

Now is not the time to give up

We all go through the different seasons of life. We got to understand the basic fact that no season is permanent. It will change at the right time. Many of us have dreams and goals that we have set for ourselves but at times it seems to be taking too long for those dreams and goals to come to pass. 

Don't you dare think that its never gonna happen because good things do take time. All you got to do is keep believing in your dreams and know that you are the only one who has the power to make those dreams come to pass. Don't ever let the seed of belief that you once have sowed in you disappear from within because no one else can ever understand that dream better than you. Nurture your dreams and keep it safe from all odds that tell you its never gonna happen. Nothing has the power to shatter your dreams as long as you are protecting them. Your dreams are that part of you that deserves to be protected and if you have dreamed it once then I am very sure YOU ARE CAPABLE of making them come true. 

Don't let anyone tell you that you can't because not everyone will be able to see and understand what you are capable of and what you are worth.You must have failed many a times trying to achieve your dreams, but the question here is, did you make your failure a learning experience? 

If not, then please know that it was an opportunity for you to learn. Trust me if your dreams could be achieved with no difficulties and failures it wouldn't even be worth considering a dream or a goal. We want to achieve something that is not achievable easily and that's the beauty of the whole dream and goal thing. I believe that if you have dared to dream than you are very much capable of making those dreams come true but the only thing you should avoid is the temptation to give up. No matter how long it takes, as long as you are breathing its never too late. You never know your dreams may be waiting for you just a step away and so keep taking one step at a time. You have come a long way so remember that this is not the time to give up but to fasten your belt and get ready for the challenges that lie ahead. 

Keep dreaming and keep believing  because we never know what we are capable of and what can exist unless we dare to try. 

I would like to end this note by quoting Franz Kafka " By believing passionately in something that still does not exist,we create it. The non existence is whatever we have not sufficiently desired"

with love,

Deborah